It’s taking me some time to figure out Who I want to be while trying to wrap my head around being in an ADHD marriage. Now that I know more about ADHD and have expanded resources, for my partner, for me, and for us, it has become more clear.
I want to shine again. Damn it, I will shine again.
I will do my best to be supportive and understanding of my husband’s ADHD, but I will detach with love. He is not a project for me, nor do I want him to be. He will need to learn to handle his shit, and I will handle mine.
For myself and as a role model to our kids, I will shine again.
I will make room for the art and activities that I love. If I can’t have this, I can’t be in this relationship.
I will fix the systems that piss me of and I have control over.
I will not fuel his RSD reactions.
I will distance myself from my partner when his behavior is out of line.
I will have healthy boundaries. I haven’t quite figured out where I draw the line, but I question that daily.
I will build support in other relationships and areas of life.
I will sleep in another room if that is what it takes to get a good night’s sleep.
I will find my way to being happy.
I will feel love. If only for myself and for my kids, that will work for me.
I will have goals and pursue them.
I will grow and move forward.
I will put myself and my kids first.
